We All Have a One-Track Mind – Which Track Is Your Brain On?
As I write this blog post I know it is going out in the fifth week of the month. I always consider a fifth week a real bonus, so today I am going to write something a little different to give myself a little treat.
I recently read the following quote from Ed Foreman:
“You should never share your problems with others because 80% of people don’t care about them anyway, and the other 20% are kind of glad that you’ve got them in the first place.”
Whether you agree with Foreman or not, the point I hear him making is that giving voice to your problems aren’t going to A) solved them, and B) make you any better off. In fact, what you say influences how motivated and positive you are in life. Constantly re-playing what’s wrong keeps that negativity top of mind. When your brain is focusing on that, it can’t focus on being motivated to produce moving forward on your dreams and finding success. You have to tame your brain and get it moving in a productive direction.
The influence of internal dialog
Internal dialog controls your external performance and achievements. What you tell yourself over and again creates your reality.
It’s not just what we say at Grow Your Business Coaching that promotes success, it’s what we instill as a basic philosophy. And we believe that you have the choice to have a positive attitude and everything begins between your ears.
Viktor Frankel, in his bestselling book, Man’s Search for Meaning, says, “The last of the human freedoms [is] to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstances.”
Frankel lived through the horrors of the Nazi concentration camps, in no small part because of the attitude he chose to adopt. That in itself illustrates the power of the positive attitude.
Make optimism a lifestyle
Martin Seligman’s twenty-two-year study determined that optimism is the most important quality you can develop for personal and professional success and happiness. And, thank goodness, Seligman also informs readers that optimism can be LEARNED.
So, if you are a true human and despair that you woefully lack certain good traits, you don’t have to throw yourself to the lions. There is hope for you, for me – for all of us.
Seligman’s research shows that optimists share four special behaviors – all learned through practice and repetition. They are:
- Optimists look for the good in every situation. There is always a positive side to every instance.
- Optimists always seek the valuable lesson in every setback or difficulty. Even if the lesson is to not repeat the mistake – that is a valuable lesson!
- Optimists always look for the solution to every problem. I remember hearing if you talk about a problem without providing a solution, that that is just whining. (I think it was something attributed to Winston Churchill.)
- Optimists think and talk continually about their goals. The sun is coming up tomorrow and it’s a new day to achieve great things. Look forward with hope, determination, and faith.
Control your inner dialog and practice optimism. Stay on the sunny side of the street, keep your mind on the right track, and see what a difference it can make in your life – personally and professionally!
To your success!